Luli Harvey
Counselling

What Conditions Can it Help?

Difficulties in communication and/or sexual relations.
For example:

loss of libido and sex in a long term relationship

arguing and fighting with your partner more than you can bear

ending or beginning a relationship

dealing with the crisis of infidelity, and re-envisioning the relationship afterwards

negotiating monogamy and fidelity in a couple

addictions getting in the way of harmony,for example internet pornography

sex not being the way you want it, or painful sex

cultural differences and expections around sex and communication

history of trauma

sexual issues between same sex couples

overcoming birth trauma

About Psychosexual and Relationship Counselling:

Couples often find it easier to talk about sex and their relationship with a non-judgemental third party in the room. Individuals may just want someone to talk to about complex personal issues that have got in the way of easy relating to others.

Some sexual problems are physical and could result from disability, illness, difficult birth-giving, or a side effect of medication. You may have already sought medical expertise and tests to establish this aspect, and we will discuss this.

Some problems are psychological, originating in extreme negative childhood messages or sexual trauma. Some difficulties can stem from current communication and interpersonal problems, for example a serious imbalance of power within a relationship. Evidence is that the majority of difficulties have a combination of physical and psychological elements, and both need attention.

Unravelling psychological problems that aren't sorting themselves out and are making life less than wonderful is the job of therapy. These problems might be long-term, or something that has emerged recently. Once they are unravelled and explored, it is easier to let go of what you don't need, and bring in what you do.

What Benefits can be Expected?
Some examples:

developing language that does not include blame, judgement, criticism,
interpretation, analysis, or labelling

improved relationships and communication with significant others

more open discussions about sex

a change in behaviour and attitude in order to get more enjoyment out of
life

learning how to navigate the transition from partners to parents

learning what to ask for in a medical check if it is needed

learning where to go for further training, reading matter, and group work
if wanted

knowing how to support children through a bad patch in a marriage

knowing how to support children's transition to adolescence

working towards collaborative separation if that is what is wanted

and many more according your unique situation.